One of the biggest responsibilities that a parent faces during early child rearing is behavior management in young children. Children learn most forms of behavior by aping the adults that surround them.
Behavioral Management in children is the sum total of all behavioral techniques that act as a guiding force for the child’s behavior.
Although debates have raged over the years over the best parenting strategies and the best behavioral management techniques, it is widely accepted and backed up by numerous studies that a constructive positive approach towards molding a child’s behavior is the most productive technique.
This technique emphasizes on granting the child the attention that it seeks when it behaves well, rather than punishing it when it doesn’t. This ensures that a child learns what ‘to do’ rather than what ‘to not do’. Positive reinforcement of this kind also enables a child to develop a strong moral compass that it can bank on in the future, rather than just a fear quotient that it learns to avoid.
One of the most important factors that one must consider in regulating children’s behavior is the fact that children, especially very young children will often act in ways that are socially unacceptable. It is important that as parents and mentors we understand this and act accordingly.
A huge part of managing behavior in young children depends on how well you understand the reasons behind child’s socially unacceptable behavior. Hence as parents and guardians, one must try and decipher what really lies behind the child’s behavior.
Regular communication is the key. Reach out to the child and comfort it rather than confronting it. Often the child might exhibit extreme behavioral traits if it is undergoing any form of anxiety. Check to see if your child’s health is fine and also introspect about any changes in the family structures that might have unduly influenced the child’s mind.
Once the causes of the child’s behavior have been understood, efforts should now be focused on trying to adopt methods to solve it. While various sources across the internet might suggest different approaches, including techniques of new age parenting, it is highly recommended that one sticks to the tried and tested.
For instance, while a family death might seem like an obvious trigger for a child’s unusual behavior and hence receive a lot attention and treatment, the birth of a new baby in some cases can be just as earth-shaking for a child. This is an event that might cause a toddler to question its own position in the family, since it now has to share its parents with a new sibling.
The last step in managing a child’s behavior is to remember that this is not a onetime ‘quick fix’ solution, but a gradual, long term commitment. You have to earn the child’s trust and not merely its compliance. Children respond better to those whom they perceive as role models. Be a role model for your child. Do not expect it to do anything that you do not do yourself. And above all, look after your own health and mental well-being. Only if you are able to remain calm and patient, will you be able to respond positively and constructively to your child.
Preschools are the second home for your child and it is crucial that you choose the best preschool for them. At Iris Florets, we are extremely cautious towards your child’s behavior management and make sure that it learns the way of life meticulously.