In today’s fast-paced and advancing society, it is so confusing to just know what values, millennial parents are going to raise their children with. The neglect of teaching moral values is hurting our children and can set a wrong frame of mind in them which is not good for the world around us. It is these teachings you imbibe right from childhood that makes them stay authentic, follow the right path even in times of stride and change.
Here are some important values that you should consider instilling in your child:
- Warning against Arrogance and Ego
One of the most important values to teach your child is respect. Unfortunately, we emphasize teaching self-esteem rather than self-respect. The result is disrespectful, rude, undisciplined children. Children should be taught the ethics of dealing with people, forbidding them from despising and belittling people and priding themselves above others. Respect for others should include respecting different religions, races, sexes, ideas, and lifestyles.
What should Kids Watch?
Recollect your childhood when your mother gave you examples of a cartoon character. I still remember how my mother introduced spinach to us showing“Popeye – The Sailor Man”, eating the same vegetable. Before that, we would never eat spinach, with this great joy!
Today, I feel cartoons have lost their way. Many of them are setting bad examples. One among the most notorious“Shinchan” – he is the world’s most troublesome child. Also a five-year-old child, one who never listens to either his parents or his teachers, someone who disrespects women, including his own mother. A child can’t learn anything positive from such cartoons. These bad examples range from stereotyping, body shaming, advocacy of violence, and condoning dishonesty in order to succeed. Keep a check on what your children watch as stories are the most powerful way of convincing kids and adults alike. What they watch as entertainment today, can have serious impact as they enter adulthood.
“True humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less.” – C.S. Lewis
Humility comes with not being prideful over accomplishments, accepting one’s mistakes and failures. For children, it is more about knowing to say thank you if anyone favors them and sorry when they are wrong.
‘Give respect and take respect’ Not only should children be respectful towards elders but even they deserve respect from everybody. When interacting with our children and even while correcting them, we should remember to be gentle and kind to them.
Not only adults, but even children are more inclined to pleasing those they have a positive relationship with. When you speak to them in a respectful tone, they tend to obey you better.
- Compassion and Thankfulness
This one may sound strange, but most of them do not give thanks and this is an important aspect that we often overlook. The best way to instill a sense of appreciation and sensitivity to the feelings of others in kids is to show them how fortunate they are. Point out the bounties they are privileged with – Toys, clothes, books, chocolates, a healthy body and so much! Beyond donating clothes and feeding the hungry, we can extend humility by encouraging children to coach other younger kids in a game that they’ve mastered at school or a new language he/she has learned. This way our children become socially responsible, compassionate and grateful.
- Decision making
It is a very important need of the day to educate our children to make wise decisions. Try to reason things you do for your child. For example, you are buying a gift for your child, show him/her why you are buying it and how it is beneficial. This reminds me of an instance where I went shopping with my friend and her 6-year-old. My friend’s son wanted to buy a particular toy and my friend asked her son to give at least two valid reasons that would convince her to buy it. Although her child took time, he came up with two reasons he wanted that toy. This comes with training ourselves to the reason for our actions. Such a simple instance teaches our children to think before they decide.