Even a quick survey of a classroom for toddlers can reveal a stark difference between children who come from orderly homes and those that come from chaotic homes. And this difference is more than cosmetic. The unrulier kids typically come from homes that do not offer them a good regular structure.
What is more, research has shown that the most important phase in a child’s development typically is between the ages of 0 to 5.
It is during this period that a child requires a structured, dependable and predictable life more than anything else.
Kids who are afforded this luxury early on, go on to be more efficient that others and also better suited to forming their own routines going ahead.
The importance of a ritual:
Developing a ritual has immense sociological and psychological benefits for a child. The most important feeling that kids crave when they are very young is a feeling of safety.
Families that create a safe and secure environment at home that is orderly and structured imbibe in their kids a sense of calm and safety.
This is only possible if the family helps create a routine that the kid imbibes.
Routines create boundaries and sets realistic expectations:
One of the main reasons for an increasing sense of anxiety among children these days is that the modern lifestyle with all its complexities has become increasingly unpredictable.
Parents and other family members, whom the kid looks at as benchmarks, find themselves trapped in a vicious cycle of ever-increasing competition.
All of this play heavily on the child’s mind and it starts to feel increasingly distressed and anxious. Routines give the child a way of setting realistic, achievable targets and also a way of getting through them.
In the “safe zone” that a routine creates, a child no longer finds each day to be filled with uncertainties and starts to reach out to the outside world positively.
One of the things that are most vital in child rearing is that the home should be a place that has the least number of variables.
It is the onus of the family that each member cultivates and projects a sense of calm and order around the child and sticks to it even during challenging times. It is this order that helps a child cope with and cultivate the right responses during moments of loss and tragedy in life.
Incorporating routine into everyday activities:
One of the most important points to remember about cultivating a routine is that it should be designed around the most mundane and repeatable activities such as meal and bed time stories. Often families ignore the very mundane tasks and try and focus exclusively on only one of events such as tours and vacations.
Keep the routine simple and easy to replicate:
Another important point to remember while creating a routine for your child is that children gravitate towards tasks that their young minds find easy to replicate. A super complicated lifestyle, no matter how structured, will never attract a child or give it a safe feeling. So, structure child’s routine around activities that are even otherwise a part of your life, such as meal times, bathing times and rituals around bed times.
Routines enable better learning:
Children learn and perform better academically when they feel comfortable at home. Routines enable them not only to hit their goals more often but also enable them to get the most out of education.